School's for learning, not mom's cell phone calls

            I overheard two mothers talking the other day. One was aggravated with her daughter's teacher. It seems the mom had called her daughter while the girl was in class to tell her she was picking her up after school.

            The teacher made the girl put the cell phone away, angry the student was answering her phone during class time. The mother was angry with the teacher for not understanding she needed to tell her daughter something right then and there.

            As a teacher, I was furious.

            As an observer of human behavior, I was saddened but not surprised.

            Because I was at a friend's house, I didn't jump into the conversation. If I had, my reply would've been that her daughter is in school to learn, not take mom's phone call.

            I also would've reminded this mother that the phone call not only interrupted her daughter's learning, the call disturbed the teacher and other students in the class.

            And for what? Because this mother believed her needs outweighed the needs of everyone else.

            Our society has a bad habit of thinking about ourselves before we think about others. What we want is much more important than what anyone else might want or need.

            We mostly put teenagers in this category. We have a stereotype of a teenager as a self-centered boor, mindlessly texting while walking in the mall, oblivious to everything around them.

            But adults are just as attached to their cell phones as the younger generation. In meetings, employees think nothing of answering text messages or checking their email while someone else is talking or presenting.

            At the park, I see mothers pushing their children on the swings with one hand while the other is holding a cell phone. Their child is performing daredevil acts on the monkey bars; and because mom is so engrossed in her cell phone, she misses the whole show.

            She is, however, reviewing the latest texts from her friends and her child has to deal with an adult who's there in person but not there in mind. No more chatting with other parents in the park – the cell phone has become the new friend.

            Couples in restaurants are on their phones instead of talking to each other. Worse is when everybody sits quietly at the dinner table, intent on their cell phone, and not talking with each other.

            In the grocery store line, people no longer slyly scan "The National Enquirer" covers or talk to the person behind them in line. They're too busy texting, talking on their phone or reading the latest Yahoo headlines on their cell phones.

            In their quest to stay connected, they've forgotten the importance of human contact. People are much more fascinating to watch than anything on a cell phone and you never know what you might learn from having an actual conversation with another person, face to face.

            But first, you have to put away the cell phone. Talk to somebody.

            Put the cell phone away when you're at the park. Your child will never be this age again. Savor the moments.

            Turn off the phone when you're in a meeting and give your attention to your colleague. He or she will remember the respect you showed them.

            And moms, quit expecting your child to answer your phone calls and texts when they're in class. Show them you value education.

            And don't get mad at the teacher for doing what he or she is there to do – provide your child with an education.

            Teachers can do that if your self-centered wants and demands don't get in the way.

 This column was originally published in The Fort Bend Herald.