The expression
“blue-collar” worker doesn’t resonate like it used to, but I understand the term
because I grew up in a blue-collar town.
Our
parents didn’t drive new cars nor did we. We were expected to use our manners and
to respect the older people in our community.
The
worst offense we could commit was having a teacher call home to report we’d
misbehaved in class. Not only did you get in trouble from your mom, but your
grandparents, aunts and cousins joined in because you brought shame to the
family. Let’s not even talk about when dad got home.
It
didn’t matter your race, creed, color or religion – parents expected their
children to behave and the kids who didn’t listen were the minority. They did,
however, keep us entertained while we finished our work.
Kids
today are still entertained by the class clown, but instead of getting in
trouble with the school and then at home, troublemakers get a slap on the wrist
and society makes excuses for their poor behavior.
And
that’s when the trouble really starts.
When
out-of-control students are allowed to have their way, good educators fear for
their safety and decide to leave before they lose their desire to teach.
Eventually
mediocre ones take their place, and students who want to learn are forced to do
so on their own amidst disrespect, chaos and boorish behavior. Worse than that,
they are left behind because no one’s there to encourage them in the classroom.
There are hundreds of theories about how to change
behavior, but one theory is absolutely true -- the reality of dollars and
cents.
If
you run off good educators, you’re stuck with ones who are in the classroom for
the paycheck. Students only learn the basics, if that, and graduate from high
school at the bottom of the educational ladder.
They try and get a good job but they can’t because they
don’t have the basics. Remember, the bullies ran the good teachers off. These
students are left to scrape by all their lives at jobs they hate because they
didn’t get an education during their formative years.
On the flip side, at schools where parents teach their
children to respect teachers, respect each other and respect themselves,
learning takes place. The household paycheck has nothing to do with the ability
to learn respect.
Good
manners are the responsibility of the parent to teach the child and then hold
that child accountable. It should not be the school’s job to teach your child
to sit in their seat, stop talking and learn something.
Mom
and dad, that’s your job.
Parents, put down the remote and the cell phone. Teach
your children at every opportunity. Have conversations at the dinner table,
even if that’s over take-out burgers. Teach them to wait their turn, to use
words instead of fists and to have a thirst for knowledge.
Teach them to respect their elders and, if they don’t
like the rules, learn effective ways to change them. Until then, respect the
law, respect society and respect themselves enough to know they need a good
education to get ahead in life. The class clowns and thugs are robbing them of
the most important intangible they’ll ever have access to – an education.
No matter the color of your skin, your home address or
your ethnicity, having high expectations and constantly reaching for them is what
separates the educated from the ignorant.
If
you want the best chance for your child to be successful, tell them that the
only sure-fire way out of a situation they don’t like is an education.
And
that education begins at home.